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But of course they also want them to find good men, good providers, etc., and provide some grandchildren. And the grandparents are perfectly happy when their daughter, for whom they lavishly paid for that education, drops out of the rat race and never uses it again in a professional capacity.

On a related note, in the carbon copy of Brookline where I live, the SAHMs subtly (and not meanly, at least not overtly) look down on the moms that work. Their attitude is like, “Poor thing, she must have to do that to make ends meet. It’s a shame she’s missing so much of her kids’ lives.” There’s also an implicit suggestion that the husband is a loser, or at least that the family doesn’t quite belong here, they should go somewhere cheaper where they could do it on one income. But then these same women also look down on women who never got the fancy degree and never worked anywhere high powered. Not that there are many of those around here.

Anyway, it’s all very strange.

124Susan Walsh November 6, 2011 at 8:19 am On a related note, in the carbon copy of Brookline where I live, the SAHMs subtly (and not meanly, at least not overtly) look down on the moms that work. Their attitude is like, “Poor thing, she must have to do that to make ends meet. It’s a shame she’s missing so much of her kids’ lives.”

That hasn’t been my experience, or at least it cuts both ways. I recall feeling rather inadequate at things like Back to School Night as the powerful moms dashed in from work in their elegant suits. I have been asked many times, “No, but what do you DO? Like, do with your 23:44:25” In fact, at a recent meeting of my book group, I confessed that I hadn’t finished the book, it had been a very busy month. One woman said, “Busy how? You don’t work.” Now, this came right on the heels of the Atlantic article. Then she said, “Oh, right, you have your blog.”

As I think about my closest women friends near where I live, two are docs, one is a therapist, two are lawyers. Interestingly, the only women I know personally who are at home full-time are from my HBS Peer Coaching Group. YMMV.

125Escoffier November 6, 2011 at 8:25 am I notice, by and large, four categories of working married mothers in my little mileau:

1) She has to, they need the money. They can’t do it on income.

2) She’s the true breadwinner and he’s an artist or something fulfulling.

3) She loves her career and won’t give it up no-how.

4) They simply MUST live in the city (for status reasons mostly) even though they could have a very nice life in some ‘burb, but they can’t afford 3 BRs in the city on one income, so she works.